The Perfect Client
On the first trap you encounter when you try to help someone else let go
She came to Friday’s call with a knot she couldn’t untangle.
The day before, she’d worked with a new client, someone in survival mode, certain she couldn’t change. The session had gone well. Something had opened. The client felt better.
That morning, a message arrived: everything was worse than before.
She felt responsible. Do you? I asked.
She had some awareness about it already. During the session she’d sensed the client wasn’t fully in it. When the client said yes, something was being held back. She could feel it. Then the client had spoken to others who told her she didn’t need this — and ended up completely stuck.
We worked with the disappointment. It was an eight. We stayed with it. It came down.
Then she named something.
While she’d been watching the client pull back and hesitate, she saw it: the client was very controlling. And she recognized that pattern. She thought she’d already let go of the need to control. Working with that client, she realized she hadn’t.
“It’s the same with me,” she said.
The perfect client.